People are always going to try and keep your down. It’s a sad, but true, fact of life. Unfortunately, many people find their confidence and “feel-goods” by making others feel inadequate. Most psychologists revere to these people as self-righteous.
While people may never stop trying, it doesn’t mean you should constantly live in doubt of yourself. Throughout my college career, I’ve had many people tell me I couldn’t. My freshman year one of my neighbors in the dorm told me I wouldn’t be able to get an A in our math class. Guess what? I got a 95 percent, he got a 88. Junior year one of my peers laughed when I told her I wanted to take three different internships before I graduated. I’ve had two to date and am currently looking for a third. These are just samples of the many times I’ve been told I couldn’t do something throughout my college career. Had I let there negativity put me down, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I’d be someone doing the bare minimum in fear of failing.
It’s not just others that can hold you back, you can too.
Comparing yourself to others never gets you anywhere.
It’s true. No good can come from it. You either a, feel better about yourself at someone else’s expense or b, see yourself in a negative light because you don’t stack up. It may seem like a hard habit to kick, but there are many healthy ways you can put at end to your daily competition with your peers. Remember: you are your own person. You can’t compare yourself to anyone else because, well, they aren’t you! By comparing yourself to others, you’re setting yourself for failure. You’re either going to feel inadequate or become someone who puts others down to gain confidence. Steer clear, my friends.
Lesson: Channel the negativity
“life is like photography. You use the negatives to develop.” – anonymous. I couldn’t think of a better quote to summarize this lesson. You have to use their negativity to, pardon my language, put a fire under your ass. Don’t sit there and let their negative words shape your future. Don’t let them be right. Words are words, that’s all they are. While they may sting at first, their long term damage is minimal at best. In conclusion, whether the negativity comes from within or from the words of others, it doesn’t mean a thing. You have one life to live, don’t let others live it for you.
“Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life” by Judith Orloff
“Secrets of Spiritual Happiness” by Sharon Janis. View online.